The Connection Challenge
A 10-Day Guide to Help You Build Real Connection
There’s something I notice a lot in my work as a psychologist, and honestly, in my own life, too.
People aren’t always lonely because they’re isolated. Sometimes, they are lonely because they are not really present even when they are physically there. They have people around them, group chats that never stop buzzing, calendars full of plans, and yet, they still feel like something is missing.
What’s missing, most of the time, is genuine connection.
Not the performative kind. Not the “we should catch up soon” that never converts into real plans. The kind where you feel truly known by another person. And where they are truly known by you. The kind of connection where you feel seen, and it doesn’t scare you (mostly). The kind where you know they will understand, even if you don’t have the words to explain it.
That kind of connection doesn’t just happen by accident. It happens because someone decided to show up for it.
The Challenge
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the small moments that change relationships. Not the grand gestures but the texts you finally send after putting them off for months. The questions you ask that open a door you didn’t know was there. The time you put your phone down and are fully present with someone.
These aren’t complicated things. But they require intention. And a little bit of practice.
That’s exactly what the 10-Day Connection Challenge is built around: one small action step each day to help you build more real connection in your everyday life. No grand gestures or substantial life changes. No need to always say the exact right thing at the exact right moment.
Just consistency, commitment, and showing up.
I ran this challenge as a free series on my social media. I was new to social media and engagement was pretty low, but a handful of responses was all I needed to feel moved and recognize the power of connection. People were reminded to reconnect with old friends or tell their parents things they’d been holding onto. Anyone who participated fully was given an opportunity to notice where they had just been going through the motions in their relationships.
It was meaningful. Impactful.
So I turned it into something you can work through at your own pace, with a little more depth.
What’s Inside the Journal Guide
The full Connection Challenge Journal is available for sale on my website as a digital download. It is a self-paced guide that you can use on your own timeline.
Each day includes:
A simple, doable challenge to try in your real life
A brief explanation of why it matters (the psychologist in me can't help it)
An intention prompt to set the tone before you begin
Reflection Prompts to help you prepare before the challenge and then reflect after you have completed it
Journaling space to write it all out
The challenges build on each other over the 10 days. They start small and then gradually become more challenging stretching outward, day by day, until by Day 10 you’re not just completing a challenge, you’re committing to a practice.
A Little on the Psychology of Connection
Sit with this for a moment: connection is one of the most well-researched protective factors for mental health we have. It acts as a buffer against anxiety and depression. It facilitates nervous system and emotional regulation. Connection gives us a sense of meaning and purpose that is really hard to manufacture any other way.
Yet, it’s often one of the first things to go when life gets hard or busy.
We tell ourselves we’ll reach out when things slow down. We assume the people in our lives know how we feel without us having to take the time to say it. We stay in our comfortable routines and wake up one day wondering why we feel so disconnected.
The good news is that rebuilding connection doesn’t require starting over. Connection is built through small, consistent choices. A question you haven’t asked before. A message you’ve been meaning to send but haven’t made time for. A conversation where you actually put the phone down and immerse yourself in the present moment.
That’s what this challenge is about.
Who This Is For
This journal is for you if:
You’ve been feeling like your relationships are on autopilot
You’re in the middle of a transition (recently moved, starting a new chapter, a relationship has changed or shifted) and connection feels harder than it used to
You want to be more intentional in your relationships but haven’t felt sure about where to start
Thinking about connection feels uneasy, uncertain, or unclear
You don’t have to be struggling to benefit from this. You just have to be human.
A Note From Me
My name is Dr. Amanda Marshall. I am a licensed psychologist, certified school psychologist, the founder of Inspire Psychology LLC, and the voice behind The Inspired Psyc. I work with adolescents, young adults, families, and people navigating big life transitions. Connection is the thread that runs through everything and is at the center of almost every conversation I have with clients.
This journal is one small way I can bring that work outside of the therapy room and into your everyday life.
If you work through the journal and find that some of what came up feels bigger than a journal prompt (patterns you keep hitting, relationships that feel really stuck, anxiety or depression that’s been getting in the way) I’d love to talk. You can learn more about working with me at inspirepsycnj.com.
For now, download the journal, pick a day to start, and let me know how it goes. I genuinely want to hear about your experience.
The Connection Challenge Journal is available for purchase on my website.
Please note: The Connection Challenge is a reflective journaling resource and is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health support. It is simply a tool to support self-reflection and help you begin building a sense of connection in your daily life.
About The Author
Amanda Marshall, Ph.D., NCSP
Dr. Marshall is a licensed psychologist and certified school psychologist, and the founder of Inspire Psychology, a private psychology practice serving adolescents, adults, and families across New Jersey, New York, and PSYPACT participating jurisdictions. She specializes in neurodivergent experiences, executive functioning, learning differences, anxiety, depression, OCD, and life transitions. Her approach is grounded in acceptance — helping people understand their own minds with curiosity rather than judgment. If something here resonated, you can learn more or schedule a free 15-minute consultation at inspirepsycnj.com
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